Scorpio's Withdrawal

Scorpio’s are famous for their full on intensity, concentration and passion, but we also have Scorpio's withdrawal. They are intriguing, mysterious and unfathomable, and falling for a Scorpio can be quite the addictive experience, and one that may leave you feeling intoxicated by the power he/she has over your feelings.

However, such a relationship will also leave you feeling the withdrawal when they pull all of their powerful emotions away and act as if you don’t exist.

I once dated a man with Sun in Scorpio conjunct Pluto and have been under the Scorpion’s intense gaze, magnetic pull and compelling personality. He really did have that famous stare; the one that astrologer Liz Greene describes as the man with x-ray vision. The Scorpio person doesn’t just look at you, they see right through you. Unfortunately, I have also felt those same painful feelings when he withdraws totally from the relationship.

A Scorpio who feels scorned is not easy to deal with, and trying to get information out of them is like working for a super intelligence agency. It’s all about the subtleties, and the silent cues, and the meetings that follow can be incredibly uneasy. I will be honest in saying that my particular experience with Scorpio left me running for the door, and I wasn’t willing to put myself through a battle for emotional and psychological survival in the relationship. This Scorpio was the stereotypical “bad guy," who on our first date revealed his sordid criminal past. Although it's not that this Pisces lady couldn't see past all that and I have dated complicated men before. Astrologer Liz Greene describes this watery complex in our nature.

To water things aren’t that simple. Good guys often have a secret bad streak, and bad guys are capable of nobility. To water, people are complex and must be taken as they are, not as one would ideally like them to be. In this way, the water signs are the most realistic of all – that is, about human nature.

Scorpio’s may withdraw for various reasons in a relationship, but their feelings run deep so it is never a light decision. They can be forceful personalities with much seriousness and depth, but they are also secretive. Scorpio’s give their love selectively, and need to develop a deeply meaningful relationship with people before allowing them to get close. They have enduring affections and loyalty, and become passionately and permanently attached when they fall in love. Scorpio's do not love lightly, and hate any kind of superficial bond. It becomes incredibly difficult to fathom Scorpio out because their feelings are deep and silent,  and this makes them difficult to know, unless you can reach the level of intimacy they seek, and gain their trust. Plutonian people have the best camouflage of all the signs, which covers up the fact that they have the most sensitive and profound feelings underneath.

Scorpio has a problem letting go of control, and they have too much pride to let it show how much they are really suffering. Some Scorpio’s have been forced to see the other side of life at a young age, and have developed deep mistrust, especially if they have suffered from an early trauma such as abandonment, abuse, betrayal, and death, leaving emotional scars. It can be very difficult for Scorpio to fully trust life, and their psychic sensitivity senses when there is the possibility of being wounded, and so they withdraw into that safe place within, and so it takes a long time for them to trust and to forgive.

Astrologer Linda Goodman said some interesting things about Scorpio:

Some Scorpios, instead of seeking the ruthless revenge of their stinger scorpion’s – or rising above such bitterness like the eagles -they bitterly withdraw in tangled hatreds at each minor injury, hoping fate will punish their enemies, almost unconsciously willing destruction without direct action.

Most water signs find it difficult to verbalize their emotions, but Scorpio’s feelings are intensely felt, and there is an all or nothing approach to everything in life. Water signs tend to withdraw as a protective measure when they sense danger or the likelihood of being deeply hurt. Nobody can hurt Scorpio when they are shielding themselves, and because of their ability to feel more deeply than any other sign, they also cut deeply. No other element holds a candle to water’s mystery, subtlety and long kept secrets. However, water people are not constant in the expression of their moods. Both Scorpio and Pisces are best known for the secretive qualities, but even Cancer is deeply private.

Scorpio is also famously known for skulking away and brooding over past hurts and the funny thing about Scorpio’s withdrawal – is that they hate any form of coldness. The nonreactive Scorpio, the one who has withdrawn, is actually in disguise and is covering up the fact that they feel rejected. They disguise their intensity and great sensitivity in order to protect themselves from hurt and humiliation. They need a great deal of emotional closeness, but Scorpio may also withdraw when they feel someone is being false or insincere.