Those with Saturn in the 7th house usually wanting a serious and committed relationship, find that there is a cautious and reserved approach to relating and often they need to develop more confidence and overcome old fears of being hurt and rejected, and their interactions are sometimes conditioned by the anxiety that others won’t accept them.
Partnerships are an important component of their life, and perhaps their profession. Marriage is a serious commitment and not to be entered into lightly. Astrologer Liz Greene says that this person will attract to themselves situations which involve some degree of pain, isolation and disappointment until he or she begins to orientate himself towards an inner search. Other tough lessons often involve needing to learn how to be in an equal partnership and work within the boundaries of a relationship.
Requirements for a mate can be very exacting with this placement and Saturn here suggests that some duty and responsibility are also necessary. Relationships are not always easy, and sometimes those with this placement feel as if they have little or no romantic possibilities. Saturn in the 7th house, will first have to deal with the feeling of being undeserving, and even if there are painful experiences connected to relating this is the area of life where personal defining will take place, and is the most important area of growth.
In alchemical symbolism this marriage is always accompanied by darkness and death previous to the distillation of the elixir; and the darkness which often accompanies a seventh house Saturn is matched only by the brilliance of the gold which is also promised. Saturn: A New Look at an Old Devil
Saturn in the 7th house can create barriers to relationships out of fear, and they may be afraid of the degree of commitment that a relationship requires. The partner in life is sometimes viewed as an additional responsibility, a burden and a handicap and they feel imprisoned by the marriage. There might be frequent obstacles getting in the way of forming a real relationship. Saturn here may test and analyze their lovers constantly, asking for concrete definitions of commitment through their own need for security. The placement can suggest that they look for a partner who they can respect, and need time to evaluate a potential lover. Prestige and standing may be looked for in a potential mate, and sometimes they look for a partner who can maintain them. Saturn here may be recognized through their practical stance and down-to-earth attitude towards relationships. The relationship needs to have goals and there is a need to feel safe and secure in a partnership. Therefore, they weigh up a potential partner carefully and don't rush in.
Sometimes they choose someone who is is inadequate or form a partnership with a significant age gap. Or in a different financial bracket, or further along career wise. Instead of being reliable, hardworking and trusting, a partner may become cold, aloof, indifferent, restrictive and inhibiting. A good partnership for these people is one that is rock-solid and dependable, but the problem is that they sometimes hold onto relationships out of a sense of obligation and fear of the future. Above all they need someone they can trust and respect.
Wherever Saturn falls in the chart, we feel that we are lacking, undeveloped and crippled and in the area of relationships they must overcome their fear of being vulnerable. Saturn in the 7th house takes the whole relationship business extremely serious, and once they have decided to go for it, that's it. They want to make sure they make the right choice, and some may be very drawn to the traditional side of relationships, and they want the church wedding and everything is a formality. They may look for a conventional partner, marry late in life, or choose a partner who is more mature and already established. Saturn's strength and determination in making a relationship work should never be underestimated and they make an astute and loyal lover.