Sometimes childhood is veiled under a web of confusion and misunderstandings. The fourth house relates to nurturing and security and here the longing to be protected by the unity of life is powerful. A longing to remain in the comforting arms of childhood is another manifestation. If there are trines to a fourth house Neptune there will often be an all too comfortable feeling of emotional well being. Many times the difficult aspects to Neptune usually means there is always nagging discontent at home, and perhaps a feeling that things don't live up their ideal picture of family, home and nurturing.
Neptune in the 4th house will search for the ideal home they wish they had, or believe they had, when they were a child. Finding inner peace and a sense of security and belonging is important to them. Neptune here also shows a deep fragility at the base of the personality and it may not always be obvious in 'tougher horoscopes', but it still exists and forms the base of their inner selves. In Neptune we long to rise above earthly reality and feel something more uplifting, and shows where we ant to feel a deeper emotional connection.
Sadly, the father may be physically absent through separation, divorce or death, representing elusiveness and inaccessibility. There can also be a deep sadness around Dad, and he may be unobtainable to the person physically and/or psychologically. Usually there is an unconscious over-idealization of him, and on some level a solid relationship with him has been sacrificed. The father may be artistic or held dreams that went unfulfilled. Another possibility is that he might have been experienced as weak or disappointing to us in some way. Sometimes a gentleness and ethereal quality are terms used to describe the father.
This placement of Neptune often shows a sensitivity towards a parent, and the individual may have deep empathy for his suffering. A parent shown by Neptune might describe someone who is ill or addicted to alcohol/drugs, and so the nurturing element is hard to obtain if a parent is caught up in the negative hag-ups of Neptune's world. Neptune has a powerful hold on the parent, and the victim/savior archetype also falls close to home, and the individual might have wished they could have saved them from suffering. Neptune rules redemption in astrology and you may have an emotional need to redeem the father.
Depending on how heavily aspected Neptune is in the fourth house, there can be soul weariness and depressed feeling in the family home. The father may have faced early retirement from his career (opposite 10th) through ill health. Often feelings of disillusionment, disappointment or deep sadness surround Dad and how they relate to him. Childhood needs are often sacrificed and major adjustments are made in the home. Another family member may have fallen ill and needed to be looked after. A parent can show dependency needs which could arise through addiction to drink/drugs. The child sometimes has to take care of the parent and sacrifice his/her own personal needs, and all of this can generate feelings of guilt if they don’t take care of the parent's demands.
Neptune in the fourth house represents the search for a spiritual home and dreams of finding the perfect resting place, away from the demand of reality. Often it can take some time before the dream the individual hold inside materializes, and sometimes it will always remain a fantasy. With watery Neptune in our “home” we need to watch out for floods, springing leaks and make sure the foundations are stable. Neptune in the 4th house may even have to give/sacrifice the home. A Neptunian home needs to be a spiritual and restful place, and the dream home can materialize once they have worked through our nebulous feelings from the past.
Another thing to watch out for is Neptune's slippery boundaries and often around deception. They have to being gullible, and inviting (out of sympathy or pity) others to stay in your home, be aware of those taking anyone taking advantage of such kind hospitality. Those who have alcohol and drug problems or illness could mistake kindness and sympathy for weakness and take the Neptune in 4th house for granted. Too many great sacrifices can be made on behalf of someone who is inhabiting our personal space.
Sometimes the individual experiences strange, mysterious and even weird events happening at home. Moreover, they may enjoy exploring spiritual subjects, and be absorbed in artistic endeavors, music and inspirational thoughts all from the comfort of their home. Sometimes this placement of other factors agree may be a bit of a hermit at home and used it as their escape from reality.The real aim of this placement is to feel spiritually secure from the inside and let that feeling fulfill us. The home is merely a reflection of the beauty and tranquillity that exists within.