I fell in love with this picture above showing the longevity of the partnership. I know ya’ll wonder what the astrology glue is that holds a couple together. It could be shared responsibility and property and children, and then we usually look to Saturn. Saturn represents time, stability, and making a commitment so a strong connection involving Saturn and the personal planets as well as the angles across the synastry chart is always a plus. A long-term relationship usually needs a tie that binds, You can be different with each relationship, your trying to meet the other half way, and you also have a new composite and synastry chart with every new man or woman. Saturn can sometimes dampen relationships, or weight it down by duty.
A long relationship isn’t always held together by love, and some people fear change, but sometimes love is a powerful factor in why the relationship is still together even if your synastry chart shows more kung-fu aspects than those flowery connections that us astrologers rave about at times, you know the ones, Sun/Venus Moon/Venus in harmony, etc.. It then goes back to the individual natal chart. One person may prefer a bit more drama and excitement in a relationship while another hates all the stress and conflict that is involved in maintaining it.
A tie between two Suns is often a good feature, and Carl Jung was a believer of the Sun-Moon connection and found many married couples with this aspect. Some believe if the Moons fall in disharmony they will never feel truly at home with each other. The emotional responses required are too out of sync, and there is no sense of belonging. It is thought that an emotional bond could also be the adhesive of a long relationship.
The usual Venus/Mars ties may also be obvious. For the relationship forming - Venus in progression is often a sign of a love affair occurring. The outer planets to a woman’s Sun (men in her life) have sometimes symbolised a new man entering the picture, and sometimes it's long lasting, and at other times they are only there for the duration of the transit, so you have this short term connection to learn from one another. Pluto aspecting the Sun, Venus or Mars in transit could describe a relationship entering your life that is intense, filled with power struggles, jealousies and attempts to dominate one another. Similarly you could meet a partner that changes your life in a dramatic way. The 5th and 7th house are good also for finding romance if a progression or transit enters that domain.
We usually have our ideal images of the type of man or woman that appeals to us and we carry these archetypal figures in our psyches. Usually we have deep attractions to people that embody those planetary symbols. The choice of partner may not be astrologically sound on paper, and it’s not usually our head that chooses anyway, and for all we know the couple in the picture fight like cat and dog at home. We sometimes choose the difficult over the safe so that we grow, and there is also that thing we call love…
Fine, then I’m not sorry either. I’m not sorry that I met you. I’m not sorry that knowing you has made me question everything, that in death you’re the one that made me feel most alive. You’ve been a terrible person, you’ve made all the wrong choices, and of all the choices that I’ve made this will prove to be the worst one. But I am not sorry that I’m in love with you. I love you...Vampire Dairies